I was listening to a podcast today, and a young woman went through a horrific ordeal. Her dad, who was a former Marine and served in Vietnam told her “You were ambushed once, it will never happen again”. He proceeded to teach her how to protect herself so she wouldn’t fall prey to anyone again.
I’ve always used the word blindsided when speaking of the betrayal that my wife subjected our family to. I believe that “ambushed ” might be a better term.
The amount of deceit and thought and overall work that went into the year long affair goes beyond simple betrayal. It’s most definitely an ambush. I went from thinking we were happily married to doubled over in pain in a matter of hours.
When I heard her say the phrase “you were ambushed once, it won’t happen again”, I thought of Proverbs 4:23, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it”.
I will never again allow myself to be put in that situation. I’m also going to teach my children how not to be so co-dependent that you become paralyzed when your significant other decides to become something that you would never have guessed they could become.
I’m not going through the next chapter of my life with blinders on. I will embrace the chance to love again, but I won’t be so blind to the fact that people make horrible choices. Selfish, life changing choices and you have to be prepared for anything.
When life throws an ambush your way, you had better learn from it. You train, adapt, become more aware and still retain the most beautiful aspect of human life, Love.