A Mother’s crazy love.

When my wife left, she said she was starting her new life. If you read my first post you’ll remember when I asked her if there was someone else, she said “Jesus”.

Jesus turned out to be a fifty year old, thrice married, deadbeat “dad” who has been taken to small claims court a dozen times for non-payment, a spousal abuse charge on his record, and was arrested for theft from his retail job on the day she left.

He is a self employed “life coach” and full time scum bag.

Any hoo, when she left she had no qualms of leaving her sixteen year old son behind to be raised by the heathen writing this.

Her two closest friends,(really her only friends) who are women, confided something with me. They couldn’t wrap their heads around the fact that she left our son. I could see it in their eyes that they truly couldn’t fathom doing that as a mother. One told me if she was in the same situation, I would be the one leaving the house and she would stay with the child.

In hindsight, I always noticed she never seemed to have that maternal bond that my sister or her sisters and female friends had with their kids. I just made up for it and I’ve always been close and bonded with my kids.

She sees our son every other weekend. I would lose my mind if that’s all I saw him. She has no contact with our older two because they chose that. He’s her only link to what she had for 32 yrs as a wife and 25 years as a Mom.

We got some snow this weekend and she chose not to come get him on Saturday or Sunday because of it. She’s got an all wheel drive vehicle. She knows how to drive in snow. Because of MLK day he was out of school today, so she picks him up at 1:00 p.m. and returned him at 4:00 p.m. She left a note for me telling me to remove her name from the school contact list as she keeps getting mail from them.

I guess if I have a question for You Moms or Psychiatrists out there it’s this. Does this sound like a Narcissist, a sociopath, a mental illness, or just a selfish, terrible person who has no regard for anyone except herself? Or all the above.

There is definitely a textbook case of limerence going on also so that should be fun for her when that fog clears.

I had to write this as I worked 12 hrs today only to be greeted by that note. Anxiety is still showing it’s ugly fucking face whenever she’s involved.

At least my son’s home again.

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6 thoughts on “A Mother’s crazy love.

  1. Oh my. There is definitely something wrong with or going on with her. That is not normal at all!
    I don’t understand that! I can’t go for more than a few days without seeing my grandchildren, it just tears me apart.
    I’m sorry you’re having to deal with watching her do this to your child on top of everything else ❤️

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  2. I have never understood how a woman can leave her child. Having said that the note has shocked me, why would you not want to know. I have read a lot about narcissistic behaviour recently, as we have recently been targeted by one. There does seem to be a lack of empathy, and I would suggest reading up on them (very eye opening) and then looking back on past behaviour. You may well find that it will make you step right back and realise that you’re better off. We did!
    Moisy

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  3. It’s shocking. I initially stayed after he cheated because there was no way in hell I was going to see my kids according to a schedule, or one second less than I had been. I was a stay at home mom and I did double duty while he fucked at work. And then the thought of my kids staying under a roof with a whore…..my blood boiled.

    I do believe in your wife’s case something is seriously wrong. There’s no explanation for walking away like that. It happens, but it’s not normal. You totally win by getting to be the parent who sees them the most. It’s such a fleeting time, parenting. I’m sorry that this happened, it’s unreal.

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    1. Thank you and I agree that it’s a win. Unfortunately,her mental health will continue to spiral down as the gravity of what she has done sets in. It’s very sad. Do you have a blog I can follow?

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  4. I wish I understood,even a little. My husband has no set time with the kids, s15 and d13 as neither want to see him.
    I can’t understand him accepting that. Was he always so selfish and cold? Where is my best friend of 25 years? How could this be our life?
    That’s fine. I know I love them enough for two parents.

    Anne

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    1. Anne, I wish I understood also. My best friend of 30+ years walked away from everything. The lack of empathy and coldness is the biggest mystery. I honestly believe she thinks she’s done nothing wrong. My kids are my everything , always have been. She was too. I wish you peace.

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